A textlationship is really a relationship you have with your phone and the idea of the guy whoβs sending you messagesβitβs not real, so stop fooling yourself. Here are 13 signs itβs happening to you.
- YOU HAVE MULTIPLE TEXT SESSIONS.
You text each other many times on a daily basis and get a high from it. You think that itβs a good sign to text so much because it shows you have lots to talk about but are you even meeting up face to face and actually going out? Talking isnβt the same thing as dating.
2.WHEN YOU CALL HIM, HE NEVER ANSWERS.
The guy only seems to be available via text. Itβs so weird. When you call him in the hope of putting a voice to him or increasing your connection, the call always goes to voicemail. Then he texts you back a few minutes later and tries to start a conversation. What the hell?
3.HE CAN NEVER COMMIT TO YOUR DATE SUGGESTIONS.
When you suggest meeting up again in person, he seems keen. However, when you take a closer look at his messages you notice that he loves saying βmaybeβ or βperhapsβ you can meet soon without any set plans being made. He also leaves you hanging by saying things like, βIβll let you know if I can see you this week.β Heβs stalling!
4.HE DOESNβT ADD YOU ON SOCIAL MEDIA.
Youβve been chatting for what feels like ages and you know heβs on Facebook but he never adds you or follows you on his social media accounts. Itβs like he wants to keep you stuck in one part of his life: texting. The rest is off limits. Why the shady behavior?
5.YOUR FRIENDS THINK YOUβRE IN A LONG-DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP.
When you tell your friends about this guy, they assume he lives in another country because youβve never met in real life. Youβre acting like youβre in a long-distance relationship with this guy when youβre in the same city! Is he just too lazy or uninterested in spending time with you?
6.SEXTING IS A MILESTONE FOR YOU.
When you progress from texting to sexting, it feels like a big deal, but is it really? Those late night dirty talks mean nothing if the guy doesnβt want to see you (and undress you) in real life.
7.HE LOVES TO GO DEEP.
A guy who wants to chat with you all the time and about serious issues might make you feel like heβs interested in developing a deeper level of intimacy, but you risk this being the deepest itβll go. It still feels like youβre getting less than you deserve because youβre not actually dating.
8.HE PROMISES TO MEET UP BUT IT NEVER PANS OUT.
Heβs so into you and canβt wait to see you again. The problem is, dates never actually happen. He keeps you holding onto this textlationship with his promises and you stick around because youβre hoping itβs a stepping stone to a real relationship. Disclaimer: it isnβt and his feelings arenβt real.
9.HEβS ALL ABOUT TMI.
You give each other loads of info about yourselvesβsome of it is actually TMI, like those late-night naked selfies. It feels safe to have these exchanges with the guy because heβs so keen to learn more about you, but ask yourself: isnβt oversharing with a guy you donβt even go on dates with risking your spark and connection being killed? Whereβs the mystery? You should be with someone who wants the relationship to progress in a real wayβand in real life.
10.YOUβRE FEELING TEXTING ANXIETY.
After a while of texting this guy who never makes future plans to be with you, youβre sure to start feeling texting anxiety. You worry that he could just stop texting at any time, and why shouldnβt he? If heβs not asking you out and making plans to see you, it means heβs satisfied with keeping you as a texting buddy. Youβre literally at armβs length while heβs typing up messages to you. He clearly doesnβt feel the need to bring you closer.
11.YOUβRE HOLDING ON FOR A REPEAT OF THOSE AMAZING DATES YOU HAD.
Maybe youβve had some great dates with this guy before you ended up stuck in the texting zone. Youβre hoping that all the energy and data youβre spending on this guy will result in more of those amazing dates. The only problem is, itβs been weeks of this back and forth texting and nothingβs really come of it. Get out now before you waste even more of your time on this dead-end guy.
12.HEβS THEREβ¦ BUT NOT REALLY.
When youβre at a rock concert, you tell him all about it as though heβs sitting next to you. When you go to your friendβs wedding, you text him throughout the night as though he was your plus-one for the evening. Youβre always including him in your life and he does the same with youβyou feel like you know his friends, family, and even his petsβbut heβs not actually there. While it feels like youβre building something with this guy, you never know what heβs really doing in the spaces between texts, and who with.
13.TEXTING HAS ESCALATED.
Since getting to know the guy and hanging out a bit in RL, your texting has increased a lot. When is it a cause for concern? When itβs the only thing thatβs happening and itβs replaced the chance of future dates. Ugh. Do yourself a favor and stop this madness!