Dating can be tricky and there’s a lot we can’t control - like showing up at the bar to meet someone and realizing the bartender is your ex. But some singles end up undermining their love lives because of their own less-than-healthy habits. These are some of the dating behaviors to kick to the curb because they’re not helping.
- Talk too long before meeting- It’s great when you match with someone and the banter is off the charts, but chatting every night before you’ve even met in person may not be the best move. You’ll want to see them in the context of the world and find out if there’s in-person chemistry before getting in so deep.
- Writing people off for insignificant things- Being picky and having high standards is fine, but if you’re mentally writing off someone mid-date because they ordered a piña colada at a dive bar, you could be prematurely ruling people out and shutting down potential connections.
- Getting too many second opinions- Talking about your feelings with your bestie may be helpful, but analyzing every text you get in your friend group chat? Not so much.
- Not being honest with yourself -If he has been upfront and says he wants something more casual and you’re sure you want a relationship and can win him over, you may want to rethink your strategy. Finding someone who aligns with your needs may help you get what you’re really looking for.
- Internet stalking before the first date- Everyone wants to know their date isn’t a murderer or a catfish, but digging up too much personal info can do more harm than good and make you feel weird when you have to pretend you don’t know what their ex looks like or that he just shaved his beard.
- Not being straightforward when you don’t like someone- When you know your newest Hinge match isn’t for you, but they keep texting. Instead of hoping they take the hint as you start tapering off replies, try a quick “Hey, I had fun, but I don’t think this is a good fit.” It saves you time and energy and sends a clear message.
Source:PureWow