A new romance is always exciting, but it can also make you anxious. When it’s going well and you want it to continue, lots of things can shake your confidence and keep you from playing it cool. But it all comes down to having the right mindset and these tips from relationship experts can help you stay confident in the early days of your relationship.
- Stay in the moment- Try not to have an end goal in mind just yet and just focus on enjoying what’s happening now. Looking ahead and trying to create a timeline can give you more anxiety, so relax and try to have fun in the beginning.
- Stick to the “Rule of Three”- This can help when something leaves you unsettled, like your partner didn’t return a text quickly or like a post geared toward them. In the rule of three, remember the first time negative thing may not mean anything, the second may be a coincidence, but the third time, it’s okay to say something. This strategy helps keep you from immediately jumping to conclusions.
- Have fun doing stuff you genuinely enjoy together- The early days of a romance are supposed to be fun, so make the most of it, try to relax and don’t stress about the future.
- See your new partner as a friend first -Try to establish a friendship with your new S.O. instead of thinking of them as potentially “The One.” This gives your relationship a solid foundation, plus we tend to forgive our friends more easily than our partners.
- Remember you can decide if they’re a good match for you- Sometimes we get focused on making ourselves likeable enough and ignore red flags that this may not be worth our time and energy. So don’t forget you have just as much input about whether you end up together.
- Be your own biggest fan- It’s easy to get too hooked on needing a new partner’s validation, but to really stay confident, keep reminding yourself how amazing you are. Even if you don’t believe it, fake it until you do because if you truly love yourself, you won’t fall apart if your new romance does.
Source:Bustle